della_anne
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Running on empty is never easy. I continue forward but with no identity, no sense of true self. That?s dangerous and a true set up for failure. The only way to gain identity is to learn through experience. Gaining experience requires going out, try new things, meeting new people, and for me that?s the scary part.
I?ve always been a cautious person, especially with my emotions. I am afraid of getting hurt, afraid of rejection, afraid of judgement. With everything that I have been through in my life, the heart surgeries, being labeled as different, and dealing with overly controlling and cautious parents, I can only say that it would be normal for me to be emotionally messed up. It sucks that I have to be in this emotional place, but this is where life has taken me. It?s not my fault, it?s not my parents fault, it?s not God?s fault, it is just what is. Not an accident but a lesson to be learned.
Growing up, I can remember avoiding my emotions, especially when dealing with the big stuff. Heart surgery?how did I feel about it? Starting high school a month later after surgery?that had to be scary, but did I talk about it then? No. Why? I was too afraid of rejection, too afraid of being different. Afraid that people would not understand and so, I thought why even bother telling people. All my life I?ve wanted to be ?normal? and to fit in just like everyone else. But all my life, I have somehow always felt different. I?ve always felt different because I am different. I have different limitations, different fears, different health concerns, different beliefs and values in some cases.
My world is different than everyone elses. I see the world through rose colored glasses. This lens that I view my world through is emotionally blinding me. It is as if I am trying to be partially closed off and partially open. I don?t think it?s working. Closing myself off only makes me feel worse. I need to be emotionally open with people and not afraid of rejection and judgement.
My parents have a great influence on me, even now that I am older. I still live with them, which really doesn?t help that much. My parents when growing up have always been my guide to let me know what my limitations are as far as my health. I have always trusted them to know that they were right and that they were doing what they thought was right for me. I think my belief in their words has gone too far. They no longer know what is right for me and now I need to figure out what?s right for me.
It?s not hard for me to figure out what?s right for me. I already know, I just need to have the guts, the plan, the means and support to do it. The life balance is not there. All aspects of your life need to be balanced to make things work long term. And I don?t have that balance yet.
Moving out of my house away from my parents would be the absolute best thing for me to do right now, but other things have to happen first. I need a decent paying stable job with health insurance before I can move out. I am working on that now, but that may take some time. Patience is a virtue I guess.
The hardest part about all this the fact that I know that I am very smart and that I have a lot of potential to do a lot of things and I know that I cannot use them right now because of the way that I feel about my life. That to me is devastating. I?m young, in my 20?s but I feel like I am 40. I should be living life to the fullest and I don?t feel like I am right now.
The biggest lesson I have ever learned is the one I?ve learned these past few years. Emotions are a part of life, embrace, accept and use them.
I?ve always been a cautious person, especially with my emotions. I am afraid of getting hurt, afraid of rejection, afraid of judgement. With everything that I have been through in my life, the heart surgeries, being labeled as different, and dealing with overly controlling and cautious parents, I can only say that it would be normal for me to be emotionally messed up. It sucks that I have to be in this emotional place, but this is where life has taken me. It?s not my fault, it?s not my parents fault, it?s not God?s fault, it is just what is. Not an accident but a lesson to be learned.
Growing up, I can remember avoiding my emotions, especially when dealing with the big stuff. Heart surgery?how did I feel about it? Starting high school a month later after surgery?that had to be scary, but did I talk about it then? No. Why? I was too afraid of rejection, too afraid of being different. Afraid that people would not understand and so, I thought why even bother telling people. All my life I?ve wanted to be ?normal? and to fit in just like everyone else. But all my life, I have somehow always felt different. I?ve always felt different because I am different. I have different limitations, different fears, different health concerns, different beliefs and values in some cases.
My world is different than everyone elses. I see the world through rose colored glasses. This lens that I view my world through is emotionally blinding me. It is as if I am trying to be partially closed off and partially open. I don?t think it?s working. Closing myself off only makes me feel worse. I need to be emotionally open with people and not afraid of rejection and judgement.
My parents have a great influence on me, even now that I am older. I still live with them, which really doesn?t help that much. My parents when growing up have always been my guide to let me know what my limitations are as far as my health. I have always trusted them to know that they were right and that they were doing what they thought was right for me. I think my belief in their words has gone too far. They no longer know what is right for me and now I need to figure out what?s right for me.
It?s not hard for me to figure out what?s right for me. I already know, I just need to have the guts, the plan, the means and support to do it. The life balance is not there. All aspects of your life need to be balanced to make things work long term. And I don?t have that balance yet.
Moving out of my house away from my parents would be the absolute best thing for me to do right now, but other things have to happen first. I need a decent paying stable job with health insurance before I can move out. I am working on that now, but that may take some time. Patience is a virtue I guess.
The hardest part about all this the fact that I know that I am very smart and that I have a lot of potential to do a lot of things and I know that I cannot use them right now because of the way that I feel about my life. That to me is devastating. I?m young, in my 20?s but I feel like I am 40. I should be living life to the fullest and I don?t feel like I am right now.
The biggest lesson I have ever learned is the one I?ve learned these past few years. Emotions are a part of life, embrace, accept and use them.