My dad is amazing and I'm trying to put myself in his position as far as wanting to stay in their house and take care of Mom. He doesn't want to put Mom through an "assessment" to go into assisted living. I don't think he could bear to hear what they would say about Mom's capabilities or lack of them. I did find a retirement community for independent living and Mom wouldn't have to have any assessment. The manager told me that they have several couples in Mom and Dad's situation. Outside help could be contracted in when Dad needed it for Mom. An apartment, three meals, and all the extras. No buy in, and it's on a month to month basis with no lease. My brother checked it out (they live in KY) and said it's perfect. If Dad wants to stay in their house, we will support that decision but I get scared remembering what happened in Louisville a few months ago. Ice storm and the power was out for a week. My brother brought food into them everyday because Mom and Dad couldn't leave house for all the ice outside. Plus no one else had power either so going to be with family wouldn't have helped. Plus Mom doesn't do well outside of her comfort zone (home). Another reason that I'm sure Dad doesn't want to move. Sorry to keep going on and on. I'm sure most people face these things as their parents age. I just want them to be happy, safe, and comfortable. LINDA