Hi Betsy. Well, I REALLY love Karen's response, above. I have had similar experiences. However, I also had the experience of "baring it all" with a deep cami at home (hey, I'm home) and answering the front door to a little girl scout selling cookies with her mother. The girl couldn't take her eyes off my scar, the mom hardly flinched, but did notice her looking at me. Who knows what kind of conversation they had walking down the sidewalk, then. I felt a little wierd, but it's not like the little girl went screaming with fright from the house!! Probably the mom got to have a "teachable moment" with her.
I've complained a lot about my scar here. It is improving, finally, with several acupuncture treatments. The idea is to get the blood flow increased around the area so that the hypertrophied rope can decide it can still heal. It is working at the top of the scar (best place for it to work!). OR it is just healing on it's own (I don't think so, but possible). It's expensive (but I get other things treated simultaneously.....and being in menopause.....works out great!)
I've also begun to get used to it. What has truly helped is taking that bright red shine off of it with mineral makeup. I've never worn face makeup. I'm very fair (blonde eyebrows that I never tweeze, white-blonde eyelashes) and all I'd ever used was a bit of mascara and a bit of blush. Okay. I LOVE this mineral makeup. It feels good on my face, you can apply as little or as much as you want. I can't swear by other brands, but this is what I use. You must choose a color.....fair, tan, etc.. So it might be best to not buy it online unless you are very certain you can work with a color that might be a tad off. Sephora has the best price for the starter kit which is what I suggest. I've tried concealers, and they are just too thick and oily and pasty. This mineral stuff conceals so naturally. It doesn't go away....but it takes the blaring quality off the scar. It also sounds like it might be somewhat healthy for it...and it is naturally SPF 15 which is important.
http://www.sephora.com/browse/produ...d=P116619&shouldPaginate=true&categoryId=5737
My feeling is that you know who you work for and work with. Maybe letting it peep out an inch or 2 and see what the reaction is or isn't might help you along. Since it is so "fresh" it might honestly be psychologically best for you to let it show now, since your experience is so recent. Don't put off the event or non-event of its showing. See what happens! You will find that people either ignore it, or they are curious, or they are familiar in some way and very supportive. Everyone knows what the styles are today. It's not like you're hungering for comments..... you're just wearing what everyone else wears on a daily basis. It it becomes offensive to someone, I'm sure they will pull you aside and let you know! But you can't really know until you go out there. You could always buy a neutral, lightweight jacket/top that you could throw over your v-neck shirts and button up over it if you were headed into a large group of people who might make you feel selfconscious.
I had several dressy, evening affairs over the holidays. I just couldn't bring myself to expose it. It just didn't seem like the right place (and it's tough to find pretty higher necked clothes for dressy occasions!). But I've gotten much less self conscious in the day to day. I say, tone it down and let 'er rip!!
Good luck!
Marguerite