Ross
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Well Talon and my cat are about the same size and pretty close weight wise too. I have a huge cat! Tried to get a picture of them side by side, but Talon insisted on yanking kitties tail and that didn't go over to well.
Ignorant Grandparents?
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This could make sense, that she didn't understand the directions, they probably said something like ADD a veg this week and a fruit the next week ect.
Does Chris go to the ped appts?
Ross
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He did until she kicked him out. Now she leaves him out of everything. If she could get away with it, she'd leave him out of being a father too.
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Karlynn
I don't think she has the right to kick him out of doctor's appts or at least all information regarding Talon. He needs to get on the phone with the doctor and tell him that he is to have access to every piece of information that she is given about Talon. Unless there is some legal document that designates her as having sole custody, she has no right to do that. If his name is on the birth certificate and no other court action has been taken to take away his father's rights, he needs to start exercising them. It's not about what she wants, it's about what's best for Talon.
It is a BIG mistake for him to rely on what she tells him about Talon's visits with the doctors and the doctor's instructions. Having had a male family member who went through a divorce and protracted custody issue, no one is going to step up and say "But it's the father's right to...." unless he demands that his rights be exercised. And she's oly going to tell him what she wants him to hear.
Since it appears that she hasn't taken any such legal action, he needs to start establishing a record of actively requesting full disclosure and participation in Talon's care. At this point - the doctor has no legal right to deny him complete information.
Doctors usually give out information sheets on what their plans are, or they have it on a web site. He needs to call and request copies of all of Talon's medical records and any fact sheets that she is given.
Now as far as a grandparent's role... you can only suggest. And then sit back and watch as they make mistakes and hopefully learn.
I don't understand Chris not letting him have water. My granddaughter has had bottles of water since she was very young. If he's getting juice instead - then you know that this is most likely not a direction from the doctor. The poor little thing needs to be hydrated!
It is a BIG mistake for him to rely on what she tells him about Talon's visits with the doctors and the doctor's instructions. Having had a male family member who went through a divorce and protracted custody issue, no one is going to step up and say "But it's the father's right to...." unless he demands that his rights be exercised. And she's oly going to tell him what she wants him to hear.
Since it appears that she hasn't taken any such legal action, he needs to start establishing a record of actively requesting full disclosure and participation in Talon's care. At this point - the doctor has no legal right to deny him complete information.
Doctors usually give out information sheets on what their plans are, or they have it on a web site. He needs to call and request copies of all of Talon's medical records and any fact sheets that she is given.
Now as far as a grandparent's role... you can only suggest. And then sit back and watch as they make mistakes and hopefully learn.
I don't understand Chris not letting him have water. My granddaughter has had bottles of water since she was very young. If he's getting juice instead - then you know that this is most likely not a direction from the doctor. The poor little thing needs to be hydrated!
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Lisa in Katy
Encourage Chris to be more involved, even if it means pissing mom off. If she decides to take him to court, his non-involvment could be seen as not caring and would be to his disadvantage.
Besides, anyone who thinks it's okay to feed a baby prunes for a solid week needs some help.
Besides, anyone who thinks it's okay to feed a baby prunes for a solid week needs some help.
I agree with what both Lisa and Karlynn said, altho I'm sure you agree too Ross, but the problem is getting Chris to see it.
I DEFINATELY would ask for all copies of the medical things ect ASK the doctor what he /she said about eating (and relally IF a doc said all prunes for a week, I'd be looking for a new doc) With the rate of divorce doctors (and school systems later on) are used to givng info to both parents IF she cuts him out now, it will only get worse later
I DEFINATELY would ask for all copies of the medical things ect ASK the doctor what he /she said about eating (and relally IF a doc said all prunes for a week, I'd be looking for a new doc) With the rate of divorce doctors (and school systems later on) are used to givng info to both parents IF she cuts him out now, it will only get worse later
csutherland
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It's not going to make a dime's worth of difference in the long run, whichever way you do it.
When my twin girls were born I bottlefed them, using Similac. This was over 45 yrs ago. The status symbol among my peers at that time was to see who could switch their baby from formula to whole cow's milk first, usually around 4-5 months. My doctor, who was actually more like an old country doctor, (he was both obstetrician & pediatrician for us), said, "They're doing so well on Similac, let's keep them on it longer." Can you believe we paid $15 a CASE for liquid Similac at that time? Anyway, they were on it until about 9 months and completely weaned from the bottle at about 10 months. (Another status symbol at that time). They hated baby food & cereal and didn't eat much of anything except the bottle until they could pick up stuff off their highchair tray. They never had an ear infection, and I mean never.
My next baby girl was breastfed and felt the same way about baby food. She's now 40, has a ravenous appetite and stays very slim. But that's all about genetics in her case.
Unless they're just not getting enough calories they'll be fine. Just think of the other cultures who've been having babies over eons. As for crawling, every baby is different. Seven months doesn't seem that out of line to me. I have lots of grandkids and they all have been different from one another.
When my twin girls were born I bottlefed them, using Similac. This was over 45 yrs ago. The status symbol among my peers at that time was to see who could switch their baby from formula to whole cow's milk first, usually around 4-5 months. My doctor, who was actually more like an old country doctor, (he was both obstetrician & pediatrician for us), said, "They're doing so well on Similac, let's keep them on it longer." Can you believe we paid $15 a CASE for liquid Similac at that time? Anyway, they were on it until about 9 months and completely weaned from the bottle at about 10 months. (Another status symbol at that time). They hated baby food & cereal and didn't eat much of anything except the bottle until they could pick up stuff off their highchair tray. They never had an ear infection, and I mean never.
My next baby girl was breastfed and felt the same way about baby food. She's now 40, has a ravenous appetite and stays very slim. But that's all about genetics in her case.
Unless they're just not getting enough calories they'll be fine. Just think of the other cultures who've been having babies over eons. As for crawling, every baby is different. Seven months doesn't seem that out of line to me. I have lots of grandkids and they all have been different from one another.
Ross
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Precisely the case. I've told Chris to stop being so darn nice to her and start doing what's right, whether that means contacting an attorney and dragging her into court or whatever, but he needs to get his rights established immediately. So far, all advice is falling on deaf ears.
Precisely the case. I've told Chris to stop being so darn nice to her and start doing what's right, whether that means contacting an attorney and dragging her into court or whatever, but he needs to get his rights established immediately. So far, all advice is falling on deaf ears.
Wasn't it easier when they were younger and we just told them what to do and they did it?
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Mary
Wasn't it easier when they were younger and we just told them what to do and they did it?
Amen!
Wasn't it easier when they were younger and we just told them what to do and they did it?
Ha! I don't know if it was easier for my parents.
Ross
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Well I said Mr.T was as big as my cat, so here he is on Sunday 1/25/09. Doesn't look under fed to me at all and certainly isn't lacking any weight.
netmiff
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they are so cute at that age! I am not into newborns, but when they start sitting up and taking an interest in what is going on around them, then it gets good! My brother felt that every house should have a 2 to 4 year-old in it, and I must admit, I tend to agree!
He IS cute Ross, I'm glad you are able to enjoy time with him. sorry if this is OT, Is Chris living home now? How is his foot? I think of his often
Ross, he looks very healthy and he's sitting very solid too.....CUTE STUFF.
Try not to stress, and just enjoy every second with him, life passes too quickly.
Try not to stress, and just enjoy every second with him, life passes too quickly.
Ross
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Yes he's back with us. Had surgery again last month to level the foot somewhat. Keep hoping he'll start school and start getting on with a real life.
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Phyllis
He's adorable Ross and I still think he looks like his Grandpa- enjoy!
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Karlynn
Mr. T is looking healthy, and very cute - just like grandpa!
I know the frustration is them being nonsensical about his upbringing. Prunes for a week - Cooker keeps trying to pull that on us at the Throw-Down and we know it's not in his best interest.
What's really annoying is that it seems that more and more, young parents don't stop to realize that children have been raised happy and healthy for thousands of years. The big difference, and I think it reflects in the extreme amount of directions young parents are given by doctors and organizations, is that we live in a society that doesn't encourage our young people to think about anything but themselves.
When our granddaughter was just born, my son and DIL were letting her suck on their finger. They said they were told to do that because until Avery got "used" to nursing, she should only feel skin in her mouth. I told them that babies have a need to suck and not just when they are hungry and to think about it because they would be spending a lot of time with her attached to their fingers. It took 1 day home from the hospital for them to run out and buy a pacifier. Sometimes I think that new parents are inundated with so much information on what they should do, they feel like they can't trust their own common sense.
I know the frustration is them being nonsensical about his upbringing. Prunes for a week - Cooker keeps trying to pull that on us at the Throw-Down and we know it's not in his best interest.
What's really annoying is that it seems that more and more, young parents don't stop to realize that children have been raised happy and healthy for thousands of years. The big difference, and I think it reflects in the extreme amount of directions young parents are given by doctors and organizations, is that we live in a society that doesn't encourage our young people to think about anything but themselves.
When our granddaughter was just born, my son and DIL were letting her suck on their finger. They said they were told to do that because until Avery got "used" to nursing, she should only feel skin in her mouth. I told them that babies have a need to suck and not just when they are hungry and to think about it because they would be spending a lot of time with her attached to their fingers. It took 1 day home from the hospital for them to run out and buy a pacifier. Sometimes I think that new parents are inundated with so much information on what they should do, they feel like they can't trust their own common sense.
What a cutie. He's a heart breaker for sure
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sheridan07
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Handsome alittle dude! He looks at a great weight to me. I miss my boys being at that age.
