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Teresa UK
My husband, Steve, is a lovely, kind man who will do anything for anyone, so long as someone explains what it is he's got to do. He has asked an old friend to support him supporting me on the op day. They are meeting for a drink tomorrow and Steve said he'll let Paul know what to expect on the day of the op - after I've explained it first to Steve tonight in one easy lesson! They are both fairly quiet, don't like to make a fuss, thinkers rather than doers and, of course, they have not had the benefit of months of reading advice on this forum. What I?m trying to say is they will not have a natural feel for acting as my advocate on the day ( but I love them anyway!). Steve also needs to be prepared for how I?ll look. The little booklet the hospital gave us is woefully inadequate. I have read many posts where people write in detail about what happened pre- and post-op but I cannot for the life of me find any of them again. Many of you have been here, done that, bought the book, worn the t-shirt. Can you please give me your best "with hindsight" advice for supporting someone in the hours/days post op so that I can pass it on to Steve? I would appreciate all and any comments - I've got loads of time for reading now as it's half term/Easter holiday! By the way, my only major fear, which is driving me crazy, is an absolute, utter terror of waking up with the vent in and not being able to control my own breathing/swallowing for even one second. And if they've tied my hands down, I'll have a heart attack right there and then. (Do you hear the panic?!?!) Other than that, I'm fine, twitch twitch. Thanks for taking the time to read this.
Teresa
Teresa