- Jun 24, 2019
Hi all. I live in Northland, New Zealand. My husband has aortic stenosis and is scheduled for an open heart valve replacement on 9th July. We will have to travel to Auckland for this so hoping it isn't cancelled due to incomings. I have read so many threads in these forums, joined Facebook groups and Googled like crazy in the belief that knowledge is power. But now we have a date I feel bogged down with too much information and I am too exhausted at the thought of sifting through it to find what applies for us. I thought about why I have spent so much time researching and I know it is because I need to find things that reassure me that he will come through the surgery ok, will recover well and we will live long and happily for the rest of our lives. My quest to find out what he should take in with him, how I can support best him in hospital, and the best way to get him home comfortably now seem like minor concerns. But I guess it kept me busy and, to a degree, it stopped me from worrying about whether he would keel over before we got a date for the replacement. The next week is going to be really hard. He is swinging from "I don't need surgery - I'm not in any pain." to "Well I've had a good life so if I don't make it through surgery that's ok." I just try to be as positive as I can but I have fears too, naturally. March 10th this year was our 40th Wedding anniversary. I am visualising the celebration we will have for our 50th Golden anniversary. It will be a great day.