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Praline,

You are so brave to write such a calm sounding post in the middle of your storm.

This is the time to rejoice, remember and say goodbye in the hundred subtle ways we can. Some of us get shocked with a sudden death. You have been given the gift of time. And what a precious gift! It is yours to embrace.

Melissa
 
I am so so sorry to read of this difficult time you are going through. Please know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers every day.

Briansmom ... what a wonderful piece of advice you offered ...
 
Praline,
I am indeed sorry to read this news. We went through a similar situation when my mother was dying from nonHodgkin's lymphoma. She had hospice services for only a week before she died. It is a hard thing to watch, and harder still when they're in pain.
May God bless you both.
 
Praline,

Very sorry ... thoughts/prayers coming to you and your entire family....



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Thank you all....

Thank you all....

... for the kind thoughts and prayers.It means so much to have this community of caring people to turn to when you need support.

And Melissa, you said, "This is the time to rejoice, remember and say goodbye in the hundred subtle ways we can. Some of us get shocked with a sudden death. You have been given the gift of time. And what a precious gift! It is yours to embrace."

Nobody knows better than what you mean... You see, I lost my first husband in a motorcycle accident on our 6- month wedding anniversary. That was a long time ago...1973. I honestly do not know which is worse, the sudden "gone" or the watching someone suffer.

One of my brothers died suddenly last September from a heart attack. He had non-hogkins lymphoma, had been in remission for 3 years and it was back. Plus he had kidney problems and also heart valve and blockage problems. His body would not have been able to cope with OHS. He had such a zest for life... I can still see him laughing and joking...

I guess all one can do is take it one day at a time.

Myhusband said to thank you for all the prayers and good wishes.
 
Oh Praline, I read this last night and was so saddened by the news I just didn't know how to reply. Was really hoping the treatment would have had a positive effect.
I can only add my thoughts and love to the others and hope the remaining time can be filled with love and happy memories
Emma
xxx
 
Praline, I completely understand what you are going through because my dear Joe also had lung cancer. The last six months we also had hospice and they were wonderful. (they are the ones who should be giving the baths). I am sure they will provide the proper medicine if you request (or fuss) for it in order to make his life more bearable and enjoyable (maybe not the right word). Whatever they asked for Joe, his dr would rx it. They were constant with us, as I am sure your team is as well. Use all of their services. They don't even charge if you can't afford it or don't have insurance.

We took that year to share together - all the tears, all the joys, all the children, friends and relatives. I sat beside him for a year (I am retired) and we shared everything. He, too, had the radiation more than once, but refused the chemo because the tests showed the radiation hadn't touched the cancer at all and he decided that he didn't want to be chemo sick for the rest of his life. All of the children and friends sent him letters telling him how much they loved him and would miss him - me, too. He, and all of us, knew what was ahead so we just took that year to make the most of it. It turned out to be one of the best years we ever had because it was so intimate - something most people ever have (that sort of intimacy).

Please know that my heart is with you through all of this and if you need someone to talk to, please pm me and I will answer anything I can - or just share and support. With love....
 
I'm so sorry things are as they are right now. My wife faces much the samething with me and I think about it everyday. I know she's tired and worn out. I'm really afraid she's going to burn out and then problems are going to happen that no one needs. If I could help you out, you know I'd be there to do it. I know that's no help at all, but the feelings are there with you.
 
I'm so sorry to read the update, what you and your husband are going through, Praline. I've been thinking of you and him many times and wondering how it was going. My late dad's younger brother is going through this with his sweet wife right now and it doesn't look good for her either. I'm sorry.
 
I am so sorry to hear about your husband. My niece passed away in Dec. from cancer. It is a very hard thing for a family to go though. I also lost my daughter in law to cancer. I think hospice is a wonderful group. They weren't there all the time with us in either instance. But the time they are there is comforting. Lean on them as much as they are available. And take care of yourself. It won't help your husband for you to get sick. I believe in miracles and you could still get one. If not I pray for Jehovah to give you both strength to see this through.
 
I'm so terribly sorry...............

I'm so terribly sorry...............

we just buried a dear friend two weeks ago who died from lung cancer. Not the same, I know, as losing your husband.................it's just a horrible disease and takes so many good people. You have our love and prayers. Hugs. J.
 
I'm sorry that you and your husband are having to go through this. I echo those who said to rely on Hospice as much as possible; you need your strength. Hensylee's words were so touching as well as practical; I hope you can find that type of peace during this time. God be with you.
 
Praline.. I will continue to pray for your husbands comfort and for your strength. I am truly sorry for all that you are going through
 
Update on husband

Update on husband

Thank you all for the thoughts and prayers. They mean SOOO much to both of us.
He continues to get weaker and weaker. He is barely eating ...some pudding, apple sauce. chicken broth,a few swallows of Ensure. He is still able to get from the bed to his recliner with help. The Hospice nurses are wonderful. The meds are keeping him pretty much free of pain. Yesterday he was quite alert but today he slept a lot of the time.
He wants to stay at home so I took a leave from work so I can be with him. My sister and her husband are here right now ..they are such a big help.
The nurse said today it may be a matter of only a few weeks.
Please keep praying for what is best for him... whatever that is.
 
Praline,
I am so sorry to hear how your husband's cancer has developed. I wish there was something more we could do to allieviate your heavy burden. I can't imagine dealing with losing my husband. Certainly this is a time of trial for you and you will be in our thoughts and prayers. Warmest regards!!
 
Praline,

It sounds like a lot of prayers are being answered in that your husband is comfortable and with his loved ones. Times like these can be hard but so very precious. I know you are cherishing them.

Please know that we are all there with you, hugging and sending prayers.
 
So glad you can be with him this week Praline and that you have a good support system as well. Prayers and best wishes to you both.
 
Praline, I pray that your husband will be comfortable right on.
God bless you both while you must travel this road. You are so often in my thoughts and always in my prayers.
 

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