ks1490
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I wrote a post on this subject a few months ago looking for advice when my cardio told me it was time to have the surgery, my surgery is now in a couple of weeks' time. After getting some advice from my daughter's (4 years old) teacher about what to say, I've now told her and it went incredibly well. I just thought I would share the script that I used:
* Daddy went to the doctor and the doctor said his heart needed to be fixed.
* Luckily the doctor is so smart that he knows how to fix it.
* In order to fix it, daddy needs to go to the hospital. I'll be there for a week and then I'll come home. While I'm in the hospital, you can visit me. Once the doctor fixes me, I'm going to be fine.
* When I come home, I'm going to be home for some time because I need to heal. My chest is going to be sore, so I can't pick you up or hug you hard for some time. I may be sleepy and need to take alot of naps. You'll have to be mommy's special helper while I'm healing.
This worked like a charm. She proceeded to ask me all sorts of intelligent questions that I never anticipated from a 4 year old, she offered to play with her friends outside instead of inviting them in, etc. Last weekend we also visited the hospital (just into the lobby and the cafe) so that she could see where I was going to be. She wanted to know where I would eat, go to the bathroom, etc., she was incredibly interested in the whole thing.
So for me, the whole thing went incredibly smoothly. Teacher recommended only tell her 1-2 weeks out because they still have little concept of time at this age and are largely focused on the here and now. Just thought I'd share.
* Daddy went to the doctor and the doctor said his heart needed to be fixed.
* Luckily the doctor is so smart that he knows how to fix it.
* In order to fix it, daddy needs to go to the hospital. I'll be there for a week and then I'll come home. While I'm in the hospital, you can visit me. Once the doctor fixes me, I'm going to be fine.
* When I come home, I'm going to be home for some time because I need to heal. My chest is going to be sore, so I can't pick you up or hug you hard for some time. I may be sleepy and need to take alot of naps. You'll have to be mommy's special helper while I'm healing.
This worked like a charm. She proceeded to ask me all sorts of intelligent questions that I never anticipated from a 4 year old, she offered to play with her friends outside instead of inviting them in, etc. Last weekend we also visited the hospital (just into the lobby and the cafe) so that she could see where I was going to be. She wanted to know where I would eat, go to the bathroom, etc., she was incredibly interested in the whole thing.
So for me, the whole thing went incredibly smoothly. Teacher recommended only tell her 1-2 weeks out because they still have little concept of time at this age and are largely focused on the here and now. Just thought I'd share.