geebee said:Lyn,
I am still a bit confused. The post I quoted was the first one QV made after seeing Dr. Colvin and she expressed concerned about the bovine choice and repeated surgeries. Granted, she did mention earlier that her cardio had mentioned a bovine valve but that was prior to the visit with Dr. Colvin and did not actually say that SHE had decided lon a bovine valve, only that this was the cardio's choice. In addition, in that first post, QV asked for suggestions.
I also feel it was unfair of Brian to indicate the first questioning of Dr. Colvin came from Karlynn and Ross when, in fact, it came from QV. Again, if I am wrong, I apologize but I did look back because I felt there was some inappropriate and rather harsh criticism of people simply trying to help and make sure all sides were presented which is still what VR.com is supposed to be about.
Maybe it is more of a misunderstanding, I took that as a team approach where the card and surgeon discusses the case, then the card talkes to the patient, about the plan and why, such as he is only 18 and 6'6 so would need a bovine valve w/ a dacron and also talked possibility of marfans or other connetive tissue issue. no she did not come out and saySHE decided on the valve, Just that the doctros said he must have one for....
and yes she said any suggestions would be great, I'm guessing nice easy suggestions since they only had a couple days, basic hospital things or even suggestions about marfans,
people said good luck he is great surgeon ect, then problably the reason Karlynn was singled out was her first post after Q, gave that info was to say, she wouldn't second guess your surgeron and his valve recomendation, but
it wasn't until later she was upset about redos, sad about having them,
as you point out after she met with Colvin,
Her other posts in the thread, seemed to be to have to justify to the forum. WHY she was listening to her doctors, was everything explained perfectly no, but also it has to be taken into consideration, she was blindsided by all this, everything , exhausted and terrifed never mind, it just makes me sad, which I said a few times in this thread as it got more and more away from Mary and Scott and just the nasty mess
Honestly I have alot going one right now, and had a major headache for a week and just want to cry, and would love for someone to offer a little support, and unfortunately I've been dealing with this crap for 19 years
So I can imagine how she must of felt and just wanted some people to be gentle with her, assured he Dr Colvin was one of the best, you made the best choice w/ the info you had,