Alerion
Well-known member
Hey all
I had a meeting with a surgeon yesterday. It went great, we like the guy. We trust his motives, credentials, and stats and, although he doesn't use the On-x valve (my first choice for mech) he can hook me up with colleagues at B&W in Boston if I want to go that route.
So, I have come to the choice at last. I go next week for a tooth cleaning and final dental clearance and then schedule the operation. I need to make a decision and be comfortable with it. One of the major considerations we deal with in this process is whether or not a tissue valve and freedom from ACT is worth the second (or third) operation. My question is -
How bad is the operation?
I mean, I really want to know if I'm facing excruciating agony or debilitating, long-term physical hardship coupled with searing humiliation or whatever.
I know that to some extent, pain and suffering are relative. I look at my friends (and other women) who opt for natural childbirth and I think
"This woman is either clinically insane or far tougher than me or any guy I know of. Either way, I will not piss her off."
So pain is relative to your situation,upbringing, level of intoxication etc. but there are levels of discomfort we all seem to agree are unbearable. I don't know of anyone who's watched the "is it safe?" scene from the movie Marathon Man and said anything like "Huh. What's the big deal?"
So a BIG part of our decision in which kind of valve we choose has to do with the suffering we sign on for if the choice is tissue. And yet I don't see a lot of talk about it. Everyone seems very open and free with the other big decision-making factor i.e. the truth about ACT and it's impact on post-op life, but the misery of the operation itself is something we just assume?
I need more info than "Well, it really is unpleasant". I need to know that buying 15 or so years of ACT-free existence (in this case my 50s into my 60s)
with a tissue valve is worth it.
I mean all things being equal and assuming the best outcomes, am I crazy to prefer to avoid ACT, as opposed to the 2 or so months of discomfort and risk of re-op that mech valve patients get to avoid?
I understand that the unpleasantness of the operation and it's aftermath are difficult reading for some people, but I cannot fathom how one can make this decision without some understanding of what this operation really involves.
In short, is it so bad, so risky and so painful that you'll never, ever want to do it again ?
If I can answer that question, I think I can pretty easily decide on a valve.
So, if you're willing to recount it, please tell me the story of your operation, good or bad.
I hope you'll consider contacting me privately If you think it's just too gruesome to post here, but remember here is where everyone else is looking for answers, and the hard truth, even if it's really hard, can only help us make up our minds.
Thanks to you all
I had a meeting with a surgeon yesterday. It went great, we like the guy. We trust his motives, credentials, and stats and, although he doesn't use the On-x valve (my first choice for mech) he can hook me up with colleagues at B&W in Boston if I want to go that route.
So, I have come to the choice at last. I go next week for a tooth cleaning and final dental clearance and then schedule the operation. I need to make a decision and be comfortable with it. One of the major considerations we deal with in this process is whether or not a tissue valve and freedom from ACT is worth the second (or third) operation. My question is -
How bad is the operation?
I mean, I really want to know if I'm facing excruciating agony or debilitating, long-term physical hardship coupled with searing humiliation or whatever.
I know that to some extent, pain and suffering are relative. I look at my friends (and other women) who opt for natural childbirth and I think
"This woman is either clinically insane or far tougher than me or any guy I know of. Either way, I will not piss her off."
So pain is relative to your situation,upbringing, level of intoxication etc. but there are levels of discomfort we all seem to agree are unbearable. I don't know of anyone who's watched the "is it safe?" scene from the movie Marathon Man and said anything like "Huh. What's the big deal?"
So a BIG part of our decision in which kind of valve we choose has to do with the suffering we sign on for if the choice is tissue. And yet I don't see a lot of talk about it. Everyone seems very open and free with the other big decision-making factor i.e. the truth about ACT and it's impact on post-op life, but the misery of the operation itself is something we just assume?
I need more info than "Well, it really is unpleasant". I need to know that buying 15 or so years of ACT-free existence (in this case my 50s into my 60s)
with a tissue valve is worth it.
I mean all things being equal and assuming the best outcomes, am I crazy to prefer to avoid ACT, as opposed to the 2 or so months of discomfort and risk of re-op that mech valve patients get to avoid?
I understand that the unpleasantness of the operation and it's aftermath are difficult reading for some people, but I cannot fathom how one can make this decision without some understanding of what this operation really involves.
In short, is it so bad, so risky and so painful that you'll never, ever want to do it again ?
If I can answer that question, I think I can pretty easily decide on a valve.
So, if you're willing to recount it, please tell me the story of your operation, good or bad.
I hope you'll consider contacting me privately If you think it's just too gruesome to post here, but remember here is where everyone else is looking for answers, and the hard truth, even if it's really hard, can only help us make up our minds.
Thanks to you all