Showed off my OHS scar!!

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catwoman

catwoman

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Now that I've whetted many people's curiosity:

I attended a formal dinner Saturday night in Louisville KY. Needed new evening wear, so I hunted the sales racks at a Dillard's and found -- not just one but TWO dresses! I got a conservative gold gown with jacket and a more daring one, an eggplant-colored, off-the-shoulder one with a plunging neckline. At least 3 inches of the incision showed, which was a lot for me.
Well, that was the gown I really, really liked. Prior to this, I had been very self-conscious about wearing anything "revealing."

I got raves about the gown, and I did tell admirers that the gown only cost $37.50, which surprised many.

This gave me confidence to wear whatever and not worry about my incision showing.

For women who are facing OHS and worrying about their incision -- forget the worry!
 
Good for you. I wear whatever I want no matter the neckline. Personally, I don't think our scars are all that hard to look at. My surgeon went exactly along the previous line at my 2nd OHS and I don't hide it. That scar saved my life.....twice.
 
Well, there are scars and then there are scars. For all those valvers with pretty little white lines, I should hope they are not self-conscious about them. But for those of us who had some hyper-trophy and keloiding going on to leave them bright red and lumpy..... I'm 2 years out and getting a little less self-conscious, but also getting better at finding make-up to lessen the blow of the bright red shine.

So, since we don't know which variety of scar you are sporting....well..... ta-da!!! You need to show us a photo of you in that very elegant $37 gown!!!! Isn't it just fabulous when you can find something so perfect on sale like that!!??

Good for you!!!! You sound like you were just glowing. Really. That is deserving of a photo!!! Pleeeeezzzzzzz :):):)

Thanks for sharing!!

Marguerite
 
I have never tried to hide mine. I have looked a pictures from my first OHS when I was 18. 2 Months after surgery I had a formal and wore a low cut, v neck dress. I had a huge keloid developing at the time...never gave it a second thought and don't after this one either.

Kim
 
I am looking forward to seeing this gown...what a bargain!...Purple in its many shades is my absolute favourite colour so I know I am going to love it.

Some of my scar is the thin white line sort and the other half is lumpy red bits and I have never tried to hide it. While out shopping oneday in Summer a guy approached me and congratulated me on wearing my scar proudly.
 
Thats great ! and I feel the same as you. Im from Louisville and plan to
visit soon myself, I hope you had a good time.

kfay- Isnt that strange? I also have a bit of a keloid too, but I refuse to let it
change what I wear or upset me, I mean it really is SO unimportant. And Im
glad that others seem to feel the same.-Dina
 
If I had known you were in town, I would have come downtown to catch a peek of the cleavage:). I used to tell people who asked that it was an old war wound :eek::p. There are so many "zippers" out there now, it ain't a big deal anymore. Good for you:cool::D
 
Thanks for this thread, I needed it tonight. I am 12 weeks out and a little down about the incision. It is so high up and I think hyper-trophy. I hope it will be better next year. I am really trying to keep it covered from the sun too. Finding it hard to find clothes.

Thanks all.
xoxo
Just
KathyM
 
Having lived with a scar across my chest longer than just about anyone on this site I have never really given it much thought. Its there, its part of me, I just never have had a problem with it. Of course I have had one since I was 5

Now I have 2 of them, one vertical one horizontal, I just tell anyone that sees it and wonders that I am starting my own religious sect if they are interested, my sign was the cross on my chest lol.
 
The top part of my scar is very thin and white and not all that noticeable so I wear whatever neckline I want. My surgeon did a beautiful sew up job on me. BUT the bottom half of the scar (where I got cut open again for the pericardial effusion to be drained) is not so good - quite red and lumpy even now, 18 months later (a different surgeon did it).
However no-one except my partner gets to view down that low:):)

Be proud of your scar girls (and guys).

Bridgette
 
SO Marsha, did anyone ask about your Scar?

If so, I'm curious, how did that conversation go?

I'm not bashful about my scar, just wonder what kinds of questions might be posed by the 'general public' and how they react to being informed. Most of my friends already know I'm a heart patient. We had a LOT of Bypassers at work and would sometimes even compare scars. (OK maybe that's too much information :) Knowing that several of my co-workers had successfully gone through Bypass surgery at our local hospital gave me confidence that I could do it too.
 
ALCapshaw2 said:
SO Marsha, did anyone ask about your Scar?

If so, I'm curious, how did that conversation go?

I'm not bashful about my scar, just wonder what kinds of questions might be posed by the 'general public' and how they react to being informed. Most of my friends already know I'm a heart patient. We had a LOT of Bypassers at work and would sometimes even compare scars. (OK maybe that's too much information :) Knowing that several of my co-workers had successfully gone through Bypass surgery at our local hospital gave me confidence that I could do it too.
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While on our summer holidays, I've got into talking with complete strangers when we've both been sunning our zips on beaches and around pools. The scars are a 'You too' conversation opener.
All by-pass folk, never bumped into a VRer yet. :(
Isn't it strange how the quadruple by-pass guy often sees himself as higher up the pecking order than the triple guy?? :D
 
Congratulations. I know the feeling; initially I bought clothes which hid my scar as most of my older clothes had an open V-neck and a collar. Then I got annoyed at not wearing my 'normal' clothes so one day wore one which showed a the top couple of inches and once I had done it once it became easy and now I don't give a thought to it.

I haven't been aware of any stares. It just takes that initial bit of courage, and come on ladies, after all we have been through then we have courage - wear your battle scars with pride. :)
 
Sorry -- don't have any photos yet.

Will have my sister photograph me in the dress this weekend & I'll post it here.

And, no, I don't keloid. However, the incision has an odd-looking red mark on either side, like a spider vein.
 
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