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It's s.e.x. Has this been discussed here before? For the spouse of the person who had the heart surgery/valve replacement -- did the ordeal make you fearful to resume lovemaking? Logically, I know my husband's heart isn't going to explode or his aorta isn't going to rupture, but I am really having a hard time being able to lay next to him because the ticking of the valve just scares me. It's so loud and whenever I hear it, I picture his heart just pumping away so hard, then I count the ticks, then I think back to those terrifying 25 days in the hospital. And of course, it doesn't help that his doctors have used the world "miracle" in talking about how lucky he was that he didn't die. Maybe I need to see a psychiatrist, LOL! Did anyone else's spouse have a hard time dealing with this? I am seriously considering buying some small ear plugs to use during sex so I'm not focusing on the ticking.
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