Chris, it's been over 3 mos. since my surgery and I look back and realize how far I've come. Ter will also, and you, too. But, for me it wasn't an easy journey. I was very depressed - still am on some days and I had to get medication to help me. I fought against doing that because I couldn't believe that I couldn't lick the depression myself. From what I learned, though, is that some depression is a chemical imbalance and meds are simply necessary to help things straighten out. I have always been healthy - only in the hopsital for the birth of my baby 18 yrs. ago and this heart thing really knocked me for a loop. Depression is serious business....please encourage Ter to talk to you about what he's feeling. I kept all my feelings inside - didn't want to worry my family. But, once I learned that they wanted to hear how I was feeling and what my thoughts were, then I began to express myself. It certainly helped them to understand why I was down and why I cried so much. As I said, my surgery was at the end of August, and I only got help from medication almost two weeks ago. Don't let Ter go that long. I feel so much better now that I wish I had asked for help a long, long time ago. My prayers are with both of you - remember that there is light at the end of the tunnel....and the road is long and winding, but the journey is one that all heart patients take.....God Bless you both.