Wow, Marybeth, you couldn't have said it any better. I, too, look at every day as a blessing from God. I wasn't in your boat, prior to the surgery, though, and it really affected me. My whole life I was the one in charge, made decisions with no problem and thought I was just the one in control. In reality, Tyce was the one who really had the strength, not me, he just let me do my thing and was always there in the background....kind of the wind beneath my wings.
When we knew he had to have surgery, his strength just surged through....kind of like, this is it, here's what we're doing and I will be fine. He never waivered, I fell apart. He has kept that course since, and while I am so very much better post op, I know I love him and appreciate him so very much more. I realize how very special our life is and how quickly it can be changed. I still find that I become emotional and cry much more readily than ever before, and you know what, SO WHAT!! It's absolutely okay. I cry and then I laugh about crying....While I've always felt my feelings, I know I feel them much more and believe my life has been changed for the better.
I think what is important to realize is that we all deal with situations differently and all of the ways we choose to deal with the situations are absolutely OK. I think it's NOT dealing with emotions and feelings that is the tragedy.
Evelyn