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LindaVA
Hi everyone. I could use some support. I'm not a super frequent poster but have posted now and again since I found in October 06 that I needed surgery. My MV surgery is 3/9 and I'm thinking about backing out.
I was really really really okay under yesterday when I went for my preop appointments. It sunk in with a thud that my surgery is only 3 weeks away.
I'll be very blunt. I'm afraid I'm not going to wake up. I've had surgeries in the past so I don't know why this is such an issue with me. Everyone keeps saying given my age (late 30's) and health, exercise, eating habits etc etc. that I have minimal risk factors, but I have an 8 yr old daugther and dammit, I want guarantees, and no one can give me that. I mean even if they gave me 1 in a billion chance of dying, if you are that 1 in a billion it pretty much sucks to be you, no?
On one hand I feel like this is elective surgery and am I a darn fool for rushing into this, and on the other hand, I know that sometime in the next few years I would have to get this done anyway. Maybe I can "buy" another 2 or 3 years with my daughter. I actually told my husband yesterday that I would feel better just taking the course that God gives me and not fixing it and dying when that time comes even if thats a few years from now. That's what the chicken in me blurted out yesterday! That is not rational at all. My husband is very practical and he says no, I will do it now when I'm in the best shape of my life and that is the best guarantee I can get for a good outcome. Why wait until the bad side effects start. I know, I know, you all agree with him.
On the one hand I want to make a videotape telling my daughter how much I love her and all my guidance for her future and on the other hand the thought of producing such a thing is so stressful and so dire, that I don't want to let myself think that death is possibility and don't even want to go there. I NEED to believe I will wake up from this. I mean we don't all leave our houses every day to go to work writing letters to our loved ones-- we all beleive we are coming home at 5'oclock and don't even give it a second thought. . On some level that's how I want to approach this-- as routine. Please someone,do I have a right to feel secure that I will wake up and be healthy? They do these fairly frequently, right... Then who dies during surgery, who are these numbers?????
As you can see, I'm all over the place with this, even in that same email I'm Dr. Jeckyl and Mr. Hyde!
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Linda
I was really really really okay under yesterday when I went for my preop appointments. It sunk in with a thud that my surgery is only 3 weeks away.
I'll be very blunt. I'm afraid I'm not going to wake up. I've had surgeries in the past so I don't know why this is such an issue with me. Everyone keeps saying given my age (late 30's) and health, exercise, eating habits etc etc. that I have minimal risk factors, but I have an 8 yr old daugther and dammit, I want guarantees, and no one can give me that. I mean even if they gave me 1 in a billion chance of dying, if you are that 1 in a billion it pretty much sucks to be you, no?
On one hand I feel like this is elective surgery and am I a darn fool for rushing into this, and on the other hand, I know that sometime in the next few years I would have to get this done anyway. Maybe I can "buy" another 2 or 3 years with my daughter. I actually told my husband yesterday that I would feel better just taking the course that God gives me and not fixing it and dying when that time comes even if thats a few years from now. That's what the chicken in me blurted out yesterday! That is not rational at all. My husband is very practical and he says no, I will do it now when I'm in the best shape of my life and that is the best guarantee I can get for a good outcome. Why wait until the bad side effects start. I know, I know, you all agree with him.
On the one hand I want to make a videotape telling my daughter how much I love her and all my guidance for her future and on the other hand the thought of producing such a thing is so stressful and so dire, that I don't want to let myself think that death is possibility and don't even want to go there. I NEED to believe I will wake up from this. I mean we don't all leave our houses every day to go to work writing letters to our loved ones-- we all beleive we are coming home at 5'oclock and don't even give it a second thought. . On some level that's how I want to approach this-- as routine. Please someone,do I have a right to feel secure that I will wake up and be healthy? They do these fairly frequently, right... Then who dies during surgery, who are these numbers?????
As you can see, I'm all over the place with this, even in that same email I'm Dr. Jeckyl and Mr. Hyde!
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Linda