Adding. We all have challenges. I had my heart valve replaced before I left high school. Even before I had my first date.I am researching my options...Are you living overseas ? Paying for your own surgery ? Considering doing surgery in a foreign country that does speaking primarily English ?
When I moved out of my parents house, finding a job with insurance was my only option. I started basically as an on call worker because the place had benefits like health insurance (which, unlike my healthy friends, I couldn’t risk being without) and tuition reimbursement.
I was able to post to a full time spot a couple months after hiring in, so my benefits became more affordable. I was renting a place with a couple people I had never met before in a new city to me and I started using the tuition reimbursement to put myself through college. My parents weren’t college minded people. I’m sure they were proud of me, they just weren’t subsidizing me. So I took classes at a community college first then transferred to a four year school.
Here I am years later with a masters degree, $0 student loan debt, a good primary job, a side gig teaching at a university, an amazing wife and five awesome kids. I’ve been blessed to stay in that same industry and had health insurance when each of our kids were born and when I needed the second heart surgery.
So when I say that sometimes you just have to make a decision and move forward, it does come from experience. I could have just told myself that there’s no way an on call position can work. I need full time! I can’t move in with strangers! What if they take my bike? And frankly, at 17 I’m glad my team just made the decision of St Jude for me. They showed the options and explained what they were using and why. They still had the ball and cage around back then!