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Leah35
Hi everyone....
I'm really struggling with something.....to anyone who has kids...how did you or how are you handling this situation? I have to travel to Vancouver for my surger (about 4 hours away). My husband and I are staying at a hotel the night before the surgery...and my parents and my brother have a suite together that will be the "catch all" room for all that are visiting me. Here is my question...we are bringing our boys down...(they are 8 and 12) and I have a girlfriend that has offered to take them...the night before...the day of....whatever I feel necessary. I want to be with them every second, BUT I don't want to upset them all that much. I have a feeling that I will be somewhat of a basket case the night before surgery and I know that I will be a case the day of. Do I keep them there overnight and then say goodbye at the hotel....or at the hospital...or do I let my girlfriend take them the night before...(I don't know if I can bear that or not). The bottom line is that I want to do what is best for them. I have been told that they are not allowed into the ICU and would not want them to see me like that...so I want to keep them busy doing fun stuff the day of my surgery and then they can come back when I am in the Ward..... and then....what if something happens to me and they are not there? ( know that is an awful thought, but a reality nonetheless) This is so hard.....I am really an emotional mess today... my sister-in-law came to visit and I won't see her until after the surgery...it's really hard to say goodbye when you're facing something like this. Anyways, I would really appreciate any input that you can give me.....Geez I think I better ask for something stronger than Ativan for these days....lol
Take care!
I'm really struggling with something.....to anyone who has kids...how did you or how are you handling this situation? I have to travel to Vancouver for my surger (about 4 hours away). My husband and I are staying at a hotel the night before the surgery...and my parents and my brother have a suite together that will be the "catch all" room for all that are visiting me. Here is my question...we are bringing our boys down...(they are 8 and 12) and I have a girlfriend that has offered to take them...the night before...the day of....whatever I feel necessary. I want to be with them every second, BUT I don't want to upset them all that much. I have a feeling that I will be somewhat of a basket case the night before surgery and I know that I will be a case the day of. Do I keep them there overnight and then say goodbye at the hotel....or at the hospital...or do I let my girlfriend take them the night before...(I don't know if I can bear that or not). The bottom line is that I want to do what is best for them. I have been told that they are not allowed into the ICU and would not want them to see me like that...so I want to keep them busy doing fun stuff the day of my surgery and then they can come back when I am in the Ward..... and then....what if something happens to me and they are not there? ( know that is an awful thought, but a reality nonetheless) This is so hard.....I am really an emotional mess today... my sister-in-law came to visit and I won't see her until after the surgery...it's really hard to say goodbye when you're facing something like this. Anyways, I would really appreciate any input that you can give me.....Geez I think I better ask for something stronger than Ativan for these days....lol
Take care!