Welcome!
I was 30 years old when I had my mitral valve repaired last June. I'd known about my valve problem almost literally from birth, so knowing that valve surgery was inevitable was never an issue; I just accepted it.
I can imagine what it might feel like to be somewhat blindsided by the realization that you'll need heart surgery. Even though I always knew, I was not prepared for when I needed surgery. Everything happened so quickly that even now it's hard to believe I'm now eleven months past having my valve repaired.
I've had three heart caths myself, and they weren't anything to worry about. I was so sedated that a live band could have come into the cath lab, played a few sets, and left and I would haven't even noticed. I went through plenty of tests before my surgery. Annoying, yes, but I understood and gladly accepted my cardiologist's intentions.
I hope that you and your cardiologist have a good relationship. That is vital to your pre- and post-surgery care. I have tons of respect for mine; he's seen me through it all and has been kind, professional, and most of all, supportive.
Keep us updated, and we'll cheer you on every step of the way.
Debi (debster913)