Honesty is the best policy... I would tell them.
Honesty is the best policy... I would tell them.
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Cool name.
Different people have different attitudes about telling their kids. My attitude is tell them, but don?t scare the puddin? out of them when you do it. And if at all possible let them come see you as soon as you lose a few of the many tubes sticking out of you.
When I had my surgery my daughter was 6, my boys were 16 and 18. Of course the boys knew I had a heart problem. I tried to blow the whole thing off like it was no big deal. I did tell my six year old that I was going to have heart surgery. It wasn?t a secret, but it wasn?t something that was talked about much either. I thought she was going to be okay with it... but she is a mommy?s girl. She had never been away from me before. Even though she was here, at home with her big brother and her Grandma, she missed me terribly. I told her before I left she could call me every night after she did her home work. She cried every time I talked to her. I also bought her a little gift to open each evening after we got off the phone. I was a seven hour drive from my home, so there was no way she could come visit me. I know it would have helped a lot if she could have.
So my suggestion is tell your girls you are having the operation and that they can come visit you. (if that is at all possible) I would NOT tell them there is a possibility of you dying... what good would that do? Lean to the positive side, tell them it is something that has to be done to make you feel better. These days prior to the surgery will be harder for them once they know about it... just like the waiting is hard for you. You have to tell them about it in a very positive way. Once they see you ?on the other side? see your smiling face and know you will be okay, they will be okay too.
My oldest son was in college, about a 45 minute drive from Denver. He came over to see me every day. He was there with in minutes of me coming out of surgery to ICU. It was a very emotional and special time for him & I both. It would not have been good for Sara (my daughter) to see me at that time, but the next day would have been alright.
There are so many freaky tough decisions that come with heart surgery!
And the answer for me or anyone else may not be the correct one for you.
Coumadin isn't really all that bad either.
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