debster913
Well-known member
Hi, all--
Not sure where to post this, but I thought I'd give it a go here.
I don't know who else besides Ruth has had minimally invasive valve surgery, but I've got a question about how to handle this:
As you all know, no one can see my surgery scar (unless I walk around topless to which only Ross and the hubster could be so delighted ). Anyway, whenever the subject of my having had valve surgery (which doesn't often become a topic) comes up in conversation with new people or people I haven't seen in a while, I get strange stares. Most people's eyes automatically drift to my chest, and when they don't see the mid-chest scar, I'll get those strange looks. One person (a friend I recently reunited with) even bold-faced questioned my credibility, to which I replied as I pretended to lift my shirt, "You wanna see it?" and the person seemed to believe me then.
I know this seems like a Dear Abby question, but how can I best handle those people who seem to think I'm lying about my surgery because they don't see an OHS scar?
And, I'm just curious--have any of you who've had OHS ever gotten weird comments from strangers about your scar? Sometimes I wish I'd had OHS just so that when my valve surgery does surface in conversation, people don't think I'm lying about it, and I can partake in the Tawdry Shirt, too . (It'll be interesting to see what'll happen in the future when/if VR through catheterization becomes the norm).
Sorry for my vent, but would just like to be armed with some good retorts.
Thanks,
Debi (debster913)
Not sure where to post this, but I thought I'd give it a go here.
I don't know who else besides Ruth has had minimally invasive valve surgery, but I've got a question about how to handle this:
As you all know, no one can see my surgery scar (unless I walk around topless to which only Ross and the hubster could be so delighted ). Anyway, whenever the subject of my having had valve surgery (which doesn't often become a topic) comes up in conversation with new people or people I haven't seen in a while, I get strange stares. Most people's eyes automatically drift to my chest, and when they don't see the mid-chest scar, I'll get those strange looks. One person (a friend I recently reunited with) even bold-faced questioned my credibility, to which I replied as I pretended to lift my shirt, "You wanna see it?" and the person seemed to believe me then.
I know this seems like a Dear Abby question, but how can I best handle those people who seem to think I'm lying about my surgery because they don't see an OHS scar?
And, I'm just curious--have any of you who've had OHS ever gotten weird comments from strangers about your scar? Sometimes I wish I'd had OHS just so that when my valve surgery does surface in conversation, people don't think I'm lying about it, and I can partake in the Tawdry Shirt, too . (It'll be interesting to see what'll happen in the future when/if VR through catheterization becomes the norm).
Sorry for my vent, but would just like to be armed with some good retorts.
Thanks,
Debi (debster913)