harrietW
Attitude of Gratitude
Best of luck and prayers for a good recovery!
DachsieMom;n857365 said:Lawdog, I just had surgery a few months ago at age 41(am 42 now) for aortic aneurysm with two kids age 6 and 8. My 6 year old was fine, just missed me the same way as if I were to be on business trip for a week (I am also a lawyer...assume you are from your moniker? I live in CT, surgery at Yale). My 8 year old is a very serious, introspective girl who understands everything and holds it all inside. She didn't say a word, and never cried before the surgery, but she became overly attentive when I came home (tried to visit in the hospital but she freaked out....my youngest was fine). With every sneeze or slight sound of discomfort by me after I was home,she came running to help and asked if I was ok. She now knows I am fine, but she is still concerned about me. It's just her nature. I tell her I am bionic so no need to worry! (I have a st Jude mechanical valve, with conduit to replace aorta as well). I joke that I have another 100 years at least! She tells me I might only make it to 100 total, so roughly 60 more years . My sister had the same surgery, so I also try to reassure her that if she ever needs surgery (one of her fears) they will practically operate through her belly button at that point! My 6 year old was pretty much unfazed.
I know your message wasn't for me but I appreciate it. I think a lot of dads can relate to that song. I lost my dad last year and I can't believe my son is going to be 9 in a couple months- it's a cliche but it does fly by. I just watched him play some basketball in an outdoor summer league -can't beat it.Tank;n857403 said:Hey Lawdog, Tank again. As you are going to be 1 day post-op I will be going into the stainless steel chamber to get fixed up once more. You mentioned your kids and that they are young. Take advantage of the help they offer and the concern they show, as they get older and mature the dad isn't always their first concern. In my case it's the "cats in the cradle" thing. I spent so much time in the hospital and never really recovered from the back surgeries that I have had. Worked long hard days, missed a lot of ball games, golf tournaments and karate tournaments. My kids are now grown but still at home, which I love, but nothing can replace that little voice that says "are you ok". Let them help if they can, make them feel good as they make you feel good and appreciate all they do as they grow up fast. Good luck tomorrow and you'll be In prayers. God bless. Thanx, Tank
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