Duxx
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My husband had an unexpected BAV replacement in July 2017, and it was successful (thank God!) and he has recovered nicely. I never left his side, ICU and 2 weeks in hospital, and 6-7 weeks out of office on sick leave. I was scared as hell, but I had to be brave and pull through with his family. It's now been 6 months, and he's feeling great (thank God!) and is getting his cardiac recovery slowly back. But all the easy things he used to do, we need to
slowly build back up (stair cases etc). Sadly, since around 2-3 weeks, I am getting anxious every night, I re-live the moments when I first saw him coming out of ICU, I have gained a lot of weight And I'm depressed and cry a lot. Again, emotionally, we are okay, but something has just unbalanced itself and I need to snap out of it and be there for him and be a positive reinforcement in his life. Any suggestions from wives or SO that have been through this? Is this normal for me? I feel so selfish feeling like this, but I cannot control it. I feel like our entire lives have changed from what we know, and we are newly weds and have our whole lives in front of us. I want to make this right, and I want to be the supportive happy wife, not the paranoid, 'did you measure your INR!', stop eating greens, did your take your meds paranoid wife. I want us to be the way we were pre-surgery and pre-Warfarin (for life). It's changed us and our marriage and it shouldn't. I want us to be exactly what we were, and I know I need to be the one to change things. Please share your experiences. Thanks!
My husband had an unexpected BAV replacement in July 2017, and it was successful (thank God!) and he has recovered nicely. I never left his side, ICU and 2 weeks in hospital, and 6-7 weeks out of office on sick leave. I was scared as hell, but I had to be brave and pull through with his family. It's now been 6 months, and he's feeling great (thank God!) and is getting his cardiac recovery slowly back. But all the easy things he used to do, we need to
slowly build back up (stair cases etc). Sadly, since around 2-3 weeks, I am getting anxious every night, I re-live the moments when I first saw him coming out of ICU, I have gained a lot of weight And I'm depressed and cry a lot. Again, emotionally, we are okay, but something has just unbalanced itself and I need to snap out of it and be there for him and be a positive reinforcement in his life. Any suggestions from wives or SO that have been through this? Is this normal for me? I feel so selfish feeling like this, but I cannot control it. I feel like our entire lives have changed from what we know, and we are newly weds and have our whole lives in front of us. I want to make this right, and I want to be the supportive happy wife, not the paranoid, 'did you measure your INR!', stop eating greens, did your take your meds paranoid wife. I want us to be the way we were pre-surgery and pre-Warfarin (for life). It's changed us and our marriage and it shouldn't. I want us to be exactly what we were, and I know I need to be the one to change things. Please share your experiences. Thanks!