dave44widow
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so, anyone out there a widow like me following horrible medical/surgical care?
i watched my husband be an experiment for medical students for three weeks and i finally said stop! we are kinder to our pets when we put them to sleep when they are sick! i made the right decision for my husband because he is at peace, but not the right decision for me-how does one live with the sadness and emptiness? had my husband been a politician or an actor he would have received better care. doubtful that robin williams' cardiothoracic surgeon or ted kennedy's neurosurgeon left them in the care of a student and managed their care via cellphone, not that i wish anyone to receive horrible care.
i often wonder if there are others out there like me who have ptsd after watching the suffering their loved one had to go through after surgery. i continue to carry on and function, working and going through the motions of life but that is all. my husband had his surgery on my fiftieth birthday and his last words to me were, " this is your birthday present. i'll be better now." his last coherent words to me. he was a dear, sweet, kind man and no one should have to suffer so before they die. and, yes, i take antidepressants and have done the therapy route.
i'll stop now and see if anyone responds-am i alone or are there others that have had similar, traumatizing experiences with their loved ones?
i watched my husband be an experiment for medical students for three weeks and i finally said stop! we are kinder to our pets when we put them to sleep when they are sick! i made the right decision for my husband because he is at peace, but not the right decision for me-how does one live with the sadness and emptiness? had my husband been a politician or an actor he would have received better care. doubtful that robin williams' cardiothoracic surgeon or ted kennedy's neurosurgeon left them in the care of a student and managed their care via cellphone, not that i wish anyone to receive horrible care.
i often wonder if there are others out there like me who have ptsd after watching the suffering their loved one had to go through after surgery. i continue to carry on and function, working and going through the motions of life but that is all. my husband had his surgery on my fiftieth birthday and his last words to me were, " this is your birthday present. i'll be better now." his last coherent words to me. he was a dear, sweet, kind man and no one should have to suffer so before they die. and, yes, i take antidepressants and have done the therapy route.
i'll stop now and see if anyone responds-am i alone or are there others that have had similar, traumatizing experiences with their loved ones?