Aimee I remember being exactly where you are. It is hard to see your sweetheart in pain, but such a relief to be on the other side.
I can also remember feeling that after all the flurry of activity that surrounded us prior and during surgery, suddenly we were on the other side and complety on our own. Made my head spin a bit.
Anyway I am glad you are both doing well. It seems that each person goes through similar but individual phases after surgery ( as with anything I guess) some breeze through happy to be alive and some are thrown into depression as they grapple with the fact that this incredible thing actually happened to them. and some go through both or more. feel free to ask anything here. this forum is for the "other" valve replacement patient. We, as a collective group have had many different experiences and emotions and need a place to disscuss them.
Having to face the possibility of life without the one you love just plain sucks, and doing that while trying to be supportive of the person who is facing such an event personally can take its tole.
I can remember getting mad at Hank because he went through a time where he resented being "bionic" I just wanted to scream at him. " Who cares you big stupid idiot, you are alive, be happy!!! "( not ecactly on the top ten list of things to say to a person who has suffered such a trama
) But my point is this. It was ok for Hank to feel that way and it was ok for it to make me mad. It is a process, this life altering stuff and we are human and knowledge is power and relationships can endure.
and this is the perfect forum to realize you are not alone and we can help eachother through it!
That said I shall step off the box now.
Have a good one!!
Michelle
