You said,
I'm just against the people who are somehow against mechanicals as if people who choose mechanicals are unwise for choosing that. Something which I feel exists here in much greater proportions than the other way round.
What I'm hearing, from the tone of your posts (largely condescension and sarcasm, thus far), that I've read as a newcomer to this group, it seems that while you have a decent amount of knowledge about artificial valves, you're imagining that people who are against mechanical valves themselves (due to not wanting to take warfarin, or for ANY other reason), are judging you in some way. Unless someone actually comes out and says that "people who choose mechanicals are unwise for choosing that", I think it's a ridiculous and rather self-centered assumption to make (ie, that people express opposition to mechanical valves to suggest that you're unwise, rather than exercising their RIGHT to have an opinion on valves that's different from the one that "you" have.
In other words, IMO, your choice to take it personally when someone expresses support for tissue valves, or opposition to mechanical valves, is causing you to respond in nasty and sarcastic ways to people, which undermines the good that some of your information might have done, because some conclude that you're an ass. I'm sure you're a good person, beneath the defensiveness and sarcasm, so if you can put aside your ego, and not feel so affronted that someone doesn't like mechanical valves, blood thinners, or whatever, I think the good information you provide here (ie statistics, etc) would be a lot better received. Reading several your posts so far, gives me the sense that you're an unhappy and bitter person, at least at present, yet while it sounds like you've been through a lot, I can assure you that you're not the only one!
Please consider dropping the defensive attitude, "I'm just against the people who are somehow against mechanicals, AS IF people who choose mechanicals are unwise for choosing that" (emphasis mine), and allow people the right to be for or against whatever the hell they want to, for their own reasons-without worrying about you taking it as a personal attack. I realize that's pretty blunt, but it's honest, and I'm facing this decision soon, so frankly, I don't need the aggravation of reading your sarcastic putdowns and digs against others, when I'm attempting to gather information about the pros and cons of various valves. I wish you nothing but the best, but to be honest, I don't need the additional stress of reading your sarcastic lectures right now...
If you wfocus more on the actual facts (as you see them), rather than animosity against people whose choices or opinions you don't agree with, I suspect that the info you offer would be a lot more welcome, and people could absorb it better, without feeling obligated to agree with you so you won't make unfriendly comments about them, too. People often remember the "tone" of another person's remarks, and their attitude, more than the actual words, so IMO it's not so much what you say, but "how" you say it that a lot of people will have a problem with. I think I'm talking about respect here, and I truly hope my bluntness will do you more good than harm, if you'll consider how much some of your sarcasm seem to be pissing some people off. Trust me, I can be EXTREMELY sarcastic and cutting when I want to be, but people here have serious heart concerns, and some of us are facing surgery soon-so nobody needs more stress. Thanks for considering, and I hope you can understand what I'm saying.
