Hi and welcome.
6am here in Oztrayliya ... so all good replies to your question (I confess I didn't read the replies in detail, but I have good faith in those members.
Now, just speaking from the perspective of having had 3 OHS over my lifetime (starting at 10yo) I can't say I understand how it is for anyone new. I can only imagine. Children get led into things with a trust that adults have trouble with in later life. So let me speak to that.
At any rate, I am terrified to do anything. .
I believe its related to lack of control. So I'll say that "deer in the headlights" is not a good responce. I'll leave this post here for you to consider the more abstract point of "are we ever really in control of much?
I'm not sure if I've "come out and said it" but I just wanted to pass on something which to me has gone beyond "knowledge" and into the full...
So it comes down to trust. I believe in facts and numbers and while theory and conjectures are good we know that no casino offers good numbers, OHS on the other hand offers great numbers.
Further, the longer you delay past a certain point the worse it will be for you in recovery. This is undeniable based on evidence.
I believe it's my ascending aorta and the root. I'm a first timer who can't handle getting needle. I know everyone encouraging a procedure is right.
Yes, I've had my ascending aorta done and also my aortic root (that was done in 1992 IIRC when I got the homograft). So this complicated my surgery beyond anything you are likely to experience given that my 2011 surgery was my third and this will be your first, giving you room for a second if ever needed .
I wrote this in the days before I went in for my surgery:
This is going to be a big week for me, as on Friday I'll be going under the knife and buzzsaw to have an unexpectedly discovered Aneuryism ...
One thing I'm actually really glad of is that I did not get the On-X valve. Note in that blog post I was leaning towards the On-X, however note also that I wrote:
The other choice that the surgeon seems to be considering will be the one from ATS Medical (also pyrolytic carbon). Since he (rather than me) has more experience in this matter (implanting valves) I'll be relying on him to make the final choice "when he's in there and sees what he finds".
So, now, I'm glad I got the ATS and everything I understood about warfarin (which wasn't much and I've have told you that then) was just "infused" general views which I now know to be 99% wrong.
To say I've learned a lot about the subject in the following years is an understatement.
So, when you know your data, and when the people start guiding you, be guided. For sure, drop in here and mention specifics and ask questions. I'm sure you'll find some helpful support.