pellicle
Professional Dingbat, Guru and Merkintologist
We often find ourselves ruminating about things that are past and things yet to come, I've certainly done my fair share of that on topics which vex me.
I found that this video appeared in my feed recently (because I subscribe to Theramintrees)
It discusses this topic from the perspective of abusive relationships, however I found many good points in it which would help people who (from my perspective) are seemingly abusing themselves. For instance:
If you are endlessly doing "google reading" (which I distinguish from research) I would ask yourself if your search is for a specific end, or just searching out "how it can all go bad". If your research is more rehersal in the context of this video?
The video advises the rumination on the concrete not the abstract, and in this context I'd place the 'concrete' as something within your control. To ruminate on something not in your control is akin to ruminating about "will I be killed on the way to work today" vs the concrete of "do not answer or look at notifications the phone while driving".
To help "paraphrase" another part, imagine the zealot involved with suggesting "horrors" is indeed just your unconscious mind?
I hope it helps anyone to come to terms with the surgery and instead of focusing on the youtube videos of the horrific cutting into people and the wounds instead turn to rumination on how to heal their view of the situation by acceptance. Remember no matter what you believe now it comes down to these things
substitute out Nature for God if that makes you feel more positive about it
I found that this video appeared in my feed recently (because I subscribe to Theramintrees)
It discusses this topic from the perspective of abusive relationships, however I found many good points in it which would help people who (from my perspective) are seemingly abusing themselves. For instance:
"patients with PTSD often focus on 'why' and 'what if' types of questions instead of the actual traumatic experience."
If you are endlessly doing "google reading" (which I distinguish from research) I would ask yourself if your search is for a specific end, or just searching out "how it can all go bad". If your research is more rehersal in the context of this video?
The video advises the rumination on the concrete not the abstract, and in this context I'd place the 'concrete' as something within your control. To ruminate on something not in your control is akin to ruminating about "will I be killed on the way to work today" vs the concrete of "do not answer or look at notifications the phone while driving".
To help "paraphrase" another part, imagine the zealot involved with suggesting "horrors" is indeed just your unconscious mind?
I hope it helps anyone to come to terms with the surgery and instead of focusing on the youtube videos of the horrific cutting into people and the wounds instead turn to rumination on how to heal their view of the situation by acceptance. Remember no matter what you believe now it comes down to these things
substitute out Nature for God if that makes you feel more positive about it
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