"I think that the answer to this lies in a step back and re-assessing things from a different standpoint. When we have a valve replacement we exchange "valvular heart disease" for "prosthetic valve disease". This is an important recognition (and it is the manner in which the medical profession views this). One can be managed, the other can not.
We know that valvular heart disease progresses rapidly after levels of degeneration of the valve is reached. We know that death follows that without intervention. So when making a choice to avoid death we have to pick which type of management we wish to undertake. That is the real choice that the patient makes when choosing tissue or mechanical prosthetic. "
That about sums it up in a lot of ways. We are not "cured." We are "repaired." No repair is permanent, no matter what they say. Some last longer than others - under certain conditions. Your point of the patient needing to consider the trade-offs is the crux of the matter. Too many times the doctors tell the patients what the doctor thinks, but the patient is unable (or unwilling) to do the homework to make an informed decision. That's when we get some of the flame wars around here. (Which, under proper conditions, with proper consideration of others, could be healthy debate.)
I know I made some trade-offs in choosing a tissue valve. I considered the data I could get, along with my personal situation and preferences,as well as advice and information from my cardio, and chose the Edwards. Had I been "ready" for replacement some years earlier, I know I would have made a different choice. My cardio and I had a 10-year ongoing discussion of what my options were and the pro's and con's of each. I was incredibly lucky to have such a resource in my cardio (and in his successor). Not everyone has that, and we often try to help them where others have helped us. It doesn't always work out, though, and sometimes comes back to bite us. I'm stubborn, though, and I just keep trying - and I thank you for all that you do in that same manner.