- Jan 7, 2013
Hi -I have family in both locations so I know there will be support for my wife and 1 year old son
I’m a bit late to the party; missed this thread somehow.
Unlike caro (above), I didn’t have a good experience at all with the majority of the staff, nurses and doctors included, before and after my AVR, at C.C...I’ve tried to find peace with all that happened, and excuse them as just being burnt out, but the truth is I had a shocking number of distressful encounters with indifferent, even cruel people.
For that reason, I was going to say you should try to have your wife with you as much as possible, so having support for her and your son will be critical.... but even better than that is if you are confident being your own advocate; and by that I mean, specifically, being sure enough in yourself to, on a daily, sometimes hourly basis,
-question why things are being done
-request they use sanitizer, especially before touching you
-insist on answers to important questions
-ask for what you need until you get it (took days to get a heating pad, more days to get ‘bundle care’, more days to talk to anyone at all for details about how surgery went)
-‘refuse procedures’ (which is what they’ll call it) to avoid sadistic, heartless people so you can get someone less rough and unfeeling
I would also offer that you should try to memorize the information you’ll want to know immediately post-op, regarding, for example, the drugs you’ll be on. My eyes were so blurred for days, I couldn’t read any of my notes or look anything up for longer than a few seconds.
Also, (and I don’t know how effective it will be, but) if I could do things differently, I’d stretch A LOT before surgery. Apparently your body is put in a weird position for hours, and most of the pain after (other than that from chest tubes poking you) will be from that. I don’t guess this would reduce peripheral nerve damage, but it could help with shoulder pain.
Best wishes to you. I hope it all goes smoothly for you.