I know nothing about your condition as mine was a simple bicuspid from birth valve replacement. But, listening to you here and there I wonder a few things.
Why is one surgeon saying wait. I mean, why? What is his reason? Are you on medication which might help things calm down for awhile? Is it your age and youthfulness he wants you to "enjoy" for as long as possible? Is there a potential for it coming back unless they wait long enough (like cataracts in the eye...they often make you wait...can't imagine this liklihood). I mean really....what!
And why would anyone want to trust the measurement of a machine (okay, a bitchin' good machine)? And 2 of the 3 surgeons think you're "there" already. What is the value of this 3rd surgeon and why are you hanging onto his evaluation? Is he your best choice? Are you in denial?
Will the truck that pulls in front of you and causes you to smash into a light pole and rupture the thing know that the measurement was still okay?? Aren't "things" at abit more at risk with you walking around with a seemingly fragile situation?
And then there's your emotional health. I know, you are intellectualizing that this whole thing is just a fascinating journey into the vast analytic depths of this machine we're calling your body. But that body houses your soul, and honest, we all know this...it's getting messed with big time. Suppressed fear is not healthy and we all had it!!! Thus the curse of the "waiting room". You will deny this anxiety...many of us do. And then when we get over to the other side of it and really relax, it's like oh, geez, was I ever stressed out!! So I just want you to honor those important emotional feelings also.
And then, just IMHO... your lovely wife. Where does she stand on all of this? How is she feeling about your waiting...about your going ahead...? I understand that she wants to have children....yours! Is is possible that this could just wait a wee bit longer, until you are not in this anxious mode, until the only thing you have to worry about is that wonderful possibility? Is she afraid and wants a part of you to remain? We need to quell her fears, then. You're gonna be fine. Look at all the many challenges our community has faced....still here.....yakking with you!!
You are anxious. You have a good, solid right to be! You are asking us things we cannot possibly know because you want to get your arms around this whole thing. Sure, there will be some comments which will enable you to ask better questions and learn things more completley. And you need to know enough so that you can advocate for you own best health. But there is a thresshold to this. You have to face the fact that you really can't ever learn all that you need to know to make these calls. And eventually, you have to "let go" and let them do their magic. And magic it will be. And you are the lucky recipient.
What's wrong with a summertime recovery? Sure beats walking in the snow!! What's wrong with conceiving a child in the wonder that is renewed life? Creating something fragile when you are no longer fragile, also.
So while those CT photos are absolutely amazing (I want one!!! Just going for a boring old 2 year check up echo today....I'm jealous!) all the answers in the book are not going to make the thing go away. It's kind of time to just pull in a nice long draw of air, shoulders back, chin up.......... get it done, Aaron.
Best wishes, really.
Marguerite